I saw a picture on facebook the other day that said something along the lines of “All moms give birth to a child, but my mom gave birth to pure awesomeness.” Or something like that. While this is true for a good chunk of our society, it’s not true for all moms. Like me. I have three kids, but I’ve never given birth. I’ve never snuggled my newborn close for early morning feedings, or even chose their full name for that matter, which sometimes makes me feel like a poser. Do you ever feel like your just posing as something, but you don’t quite fit the mark? Boy I do! When I’m around other moms who start talking about all the experiences they’ve had but I never will, I don’t feel like I’m really and truly a mother. But you know what, I am. And I am because of a beautiful thing called adoption.
We are called to care for the widows and the motherless, and most of us like to do so from afar. But my family was called to the front lines. See, I grew up the youngest of five kids. Our house was always crazy busy and bursting at the seems, and I had always assumed that this is what my life as an adult would be like. I’d have my happy little brood, and we would all be crazy chaos together. But with each passing month, and each gaining loss, that dream slipped farther and farther away. Hoping to build or family and share our love, Jon and I decided to look into adoption, and we had a heart for kids in foster care. Since we’ve grown by three, I’ve had countless people compliment me on my choice. They always say how luck my kids are, like we’ve done some great feat to take them in. But that’s not how we see it. We weren’t doing some grand gesture of humanity, we needed a family, and so did our kids. So why shouldn’t we all be a family together. Has it been easy? Not by a mile. But does all parenting have it’s struggles? I think so.
So you can see why adoption is so near and dear to my heart. This month, November 17 marks another Saturday on the calendar But this Saturday isn’t just any old weekend, sleep in day. Nope, this Saturday is National Adoption Day. Did you know that there are over 100,000 kids in foster care who are legally free and waiting for their forever family? The whole goal of National Adoption Day is to spread the word about these amazing kids, and hopefully bring some of them home for good.
Not all families start in a hospital room, or through the services of a midwife. Ours started with a social worker and was cemented in a court room. We’ve found our forever family, and are truly blessed to have done so. But there are so many more kids out there just waiting for their home. To learn more about National Adoption Day, click here. For more information on adopting from foster care, check out these sites: AdoptUsKids, North West Adoption Exchange.
I know that the path through infertility is a difficult, painful and heart-wrenching one. And I know that adoption isn’t an option for every one. But if you have a heart for it, you might be able to create a forever family of your own. And let me tell you, that is a beauty and blessing like none other.