Lord have mercy, it’s only 10:23 and I may have hit my limit.
I started this blog, a year ago (gasp, can it really be that long? To celebrate check out this blogiversary post. ) to get the word out about infertility. To take a topic that is debilitating at it’s best out of the closet and open for people to see and discuss. It’s not the ’50s, kids. It’s time we make a stand and let people know that this is a health condition, not a family planning choice. That it’s not something to be pushed under the rug. But apparently I need to work a bit harder.
This morning the Today show on NCB did a segment on infertility. I think it lasted two minutes, and the focus was the science behind failed IVF. OK, great. Thanks for mentioning this population. But it’s too little too late. The whole segment focused on failure, now if that’s a positive light, you’re going to have to let me know. But what it didn’t focus on is the reality of infertility. We are people, not numbers. We have a story. We have a life. We have hurt, and pain and frustration. We are not the total of our test tubes, injections, hormone pills or doctor’s appointments. When will they start putting a face to the issue? When will they really recognize that infertility is not just a medical procedure or inconvenience? When will they see that I am not just a number, I have a voice. I have a story. I have meaning.
And I’m so tired of people seeing adoption as a consolation prize to infertility. It will NEVER erase the pain of infertility. It will NEVER cover those scars and heal that hurt. They are two different things entirely. Yes, adoption is beautiful. Yes it is an incredible opportunity. But you shouldn’t adopt because you can’t get pregnant. You shouldn’t adopt because it’s your last ditch effort at having a family. You should adopt because there are children out there who need a forever family.
So I feel like I need to send some reminders out there. The first being that you are not alone. You are a beautiful, strong, amazing woman/couple who has been given a bourdon that is so very difficult to carry. You are not just a number. You are more than a statistic in a medical journal or on a TV show. You are not just the cysts on your ovaries or the endometriosis that ravages your body. You are valued. You are worthy of a face to your story and a name to this disease. You are brave. You are facing a dragon with an inadequate sword, but you will battle and you will win. I know, because I know your heart, and I have faith. Even when you don’t. I have hope, even when you feel like all is lost. And I love you.
Be blessed, sister. Know that I see you. That I know your worth, and that I want to hear your story.
I don’t know where this photo originated from, but I borrowed it from http://thewaymarks.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/woman-warrior2.jpg