I am happy to introduce you to an amazing lady, Brandi Herr. Bradni is joining us from Army Wife and Mommy Life and I’m so glad she is. She has an amazing adoption story, so sit back, grab some coffee and settle in!
a reason! Once my husband and I had decided on adoption, we went about the work
of getting all of our paperwork completed. This took us quite a bit of time
because i was still going back and forth on whether or not this was the right
path for us. Finally, in October of 2009 everything was finished and our
profile went live.
counseling and aide for soldiers and families. I loved it but when my contract
didn’t get renewed I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do. What if we got a baby
immediately? Well, not much chance of that right? My social worker advised me
to live my life as I would normally. Don’t sit around doing nothing just
waiting, live your life.
possibly setting up a room and buying baby things, but we decided against it. I
couldn’t handle having an empty room for a baby that might never be. Plus,
chances were, if we were chosen by a birth mother, she would have quite a ways
until her due date.
counselor for families of soldiers who had given the ultimate sacrifice. Not
only was it an honor, but it was a full time 2 year contract and was twice as
much as my last salary. The coordinator was a lady I had known a while and she
was an amazing leader. The rest of the staff was friendly, helpful, and
welcomed me into the Survivor Outreach family. I started right after Christmas,
and a week later, my husband was off to Fort Polk, Louisiana for 4 weeks of
Heros at work, and it was a huge day. I was exhausted. One of my friends
invited me to coffee at Barnes and Noble, and even though it was late and
pouring rain, I needed it. As I pulled into the parking lot my phone rang and
nothing in my life has been the same since. A beautiful baby girl had been
born, and her parents wanted to meet us. Poor Theresa sat out in the rain trying
to figure out why I wouldn’t get out of the car. I called my husband and left a
message him to call me asap and the 48 hour roller coaster ride began!
didn’t want to tell anyone in case it didn’t happen, so I sat in my house ALL
DAY waiting for my social worker to call. Finally, at 6pm, she called and asked
me to come to the hospital. I got there in a fog, and waited again for Sharon
to come get me. This hospital was completely deserted, it was creepy. Sharon
came down, took one look at me, and just smiled. She knew I was a hot mess. She
gave some advice on how to talk to the parents and then told me that they would
like me to consider using the name they had chosen, if they picked us. Okay, I
need to at least hear it before I decide. Please, please, please, please, let
me love it! Sharon told me the name, and I burst into tears. It was horrible,
not going to go into too much detail of the meeting. As you can imagine, it was
the most challenging 20 minutes I had ever spent. When they asked about the
name, I said I would think about (and I was thinking, please NO!). It was time
to bring the baby in. The nurse wheeled her in and the birth mother said I
could hold her. When they put that beautiful blue eyed baby girl in my
arms….all I felt was pure terror! This was happening so fast!
good. At this point I had to be prepared. I called some friends and told them
to meet me at Target…it was about 10pm. I remember very little of the next
few hours. My friends tell me I was like a Zombie walking through the store
aisles, putting random baby things in my cart. (I’m fairly sure the baby didn’t
need 24 month onesies, but that’s what I bought!) Apparently, it was hilarious,
I wish I could remember! In the meantime, my husband had called his mom and she
was on a flight in the morning. His commander was taking his sweet time deciding
if he would let him come home. I needed help! I picked her up from the airport
in the morning, and we spent all day shopping and getting ready. In the state
of Texas, the birth parents cannot sign away their parental rights until 48
hours from the birth had passed. At 9pm that night, my mother in law and I
picked up my baby daughter!
morning he met his daughter for the first time. It was complete and utter
insanity! He didn’t leave a pregnant wife at home, but he come home a dad! Then
the fun task Monday morning of telling my boss. She was amazing and gave me two
weeks to decide what I had wanted to do. I was so torn, I had planned to stay
home if we got a baby, but a job like this would not come along again. I would
have to start all over in the government system. It was one of those life
changing decisions, and I was making it in a daze!