Lil’ Girl doesn’t want to grow up. My fierce summer child is adamant that she will stay small forever. No getting older (ten is her limit), no getting married (and she’s sure you can’t be a grown up without also putting a ring on it) and NO BABIES. This state of mind is nothing new. She’s professed her distaste for adulthood for as long as we’ve known her. When we first said we were going to adopt a baby, she was disgusted. She’d rather a kitten, thank you very much. Which is why it’s been so amazing to watch her with the babe.
From the moment we brought him home, she declared him hers. At the slightest whimper, she’s there, cooing and patting his head. She was the chief baby holder when we needed another set of arms those first few weeks. She checks on him when she’s sleeping. She’s the most upset when he cries in his crib.
“He doesn’t like it, mamma. He doesn’t like going to bed by himself. He feels safe with you.”
Her mothering instincts kicked in immediately. Watching her we thought for sure she’d change her mind about adulthood. But no. She’s still anti-over ten. Why? Because mommyhood is tough work.
The other night, when hubby was holding the babe and she climbed up on his lap too, proclaiming him “her baby” I asked her again if she wanted babies of her own. Her answer: NO. When asked why, this was her response:
“Being a mamma is a lot of work. You have to do laundry, and dishes, and cook stuff and work. I don’t want to.”
She’s a smart girl, that one. Mommyhood is hard work. But it was long fought for, and it’s worth it. When we first met Lil’ Girl, she was pretty passive aggressive. She liked to fly under the radar and keep to herself. She wasn’t a cuddler. She didn’t like her hair played with. There were no baby dolls or snuggles for her. It has been amazing to see that change. She’s still not one for dolls (my heart breaks a little that I saved all my Cabbage Patch Kids, and my girls don’t love them as I did), but in all other respects she’s pretty much done a 180. She is as affectionate as she is kind. She’s got a heart as big as Texas, and if she doesn’t want to grow up, that’s okay. She can hang out at home for a while longer. Kids grow up too fast anyway.
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