conceiving. Talk about heart breaking! I had always felt that conceiving would
be hard for us due to a family history of infertility. However, I always
thought it would happen, it just might be difficult. That percentage due to my
husband’s condition took the wind out of us and crushed our dreams of
parenthood for a bit. We knew we wanted
to be parents though and that this was just a roadblock. Actually as time went
on, I was thankful for the zero percent chance because it was a clear cut
answer. I no longer had to wonder each month if I would get pregnant. No more
peeing on sticks and holding my breath waiting for the answer I wanted! Now I
was able to focus on creating our family in another way. Adoption had always
been in our plans long term, now it just was bumped up a little!
help from family), we quickly tumbled into the adoption process head first. We
debated International Adoption, but I was too young for most of the countries
we wanted. Foster-to-Adopt was another option, but I really wanted a newborn
and knew we weren’t guaranteed that with foster care. So, we decided to adopt
domestically. We chose to use a law center instead of an agency due to their
reviews and quick match times. I was ready to be a mom! We turned our paperwork
in as quickly as we could and prepared ourselves to wait.
a birth mom expecting a baby girl! We couldn’t believe it! We were going to be
parents in a mere 3 months! Then came the worrying and waiting. Fortunately,
our little girl was born just about 3 months after we were matched and
everything went pretty smoothly. She is now a wonderful 4 year old who we just
adore. She loves talking about adoption (on her terms).
with another adoption opportunity from a friend of a friend. We couldn’t
believe we would be going from being childless to having 2 children in a matter
of months! On 9-9-09, we welcomed a second daughter into our hearts. Her birth
mother left her at the hospital and we spent as much time at the hospital with
the baby as we could. On the day we were
to bring her home, we got a phone call. We were 5 minutes from the hospital and
we were told the birth mother had a change of heart and was coming to get baby
girl. I couldn’t believe my ears. It took a little to get over the shock and
then the tears and heart break set-in. That little girl had been my daughter
for 2 days and I was supposed to take her home. The fact was though that her
mother who had every right to her wanted her back. Getting through that time was extremely
difficult. I just had to tell myself that for whatever reason, I wasn’t meant
to be that little girl’s Mom.
adopting again. We waited 3 years from the start of our first adoption journey
to begin another journey. We used the same law center and this time we were
matched in just 4 days! 3 months later, just 1 week shy of our daughter’s third
birthday, we welcomed a son! He is now an adorable 16 month old and full of
smiles and energy!
I get goose bumps when I realize how lucky we were to be
able to adopt so quickly both times. My husband and I both feel very blessed
and lucky to have our children in our lives. It’s amazing to think that without
that “zero percentage” we might not be a family today. So, I am forever
grateful for “zero chances”.