I nearly never get dessert cereal. Cap’n Crunch and Lucky Charms are reserved for date night and babysitters. They are special occasion breakfast for dinner boxes that don’t grace our morning routine. Except this week. Cereal was on the list for our Costco trip and I let the small one pick whatever kind he wanted for the four of them to enjoy. He chose Lucky Charms-there’s magical unicorns, you know. And also they’re gluten free so Bot Bot can have them as well.
It was easy to say yes. Easy because I knew I could and in the long scheme of things magical unicorns would not wreck their world. They would make it more magical-sugar coated breakfast dreams. The things of wonder.
It was easy to say yes, because I knew there were others who could not.
For the last year and a half we’ve watched our cousins fight for the life of their daughter. Neuroblastoma had invaded her precious little body and forced medications, treatments,and a family separated by specialists and the prayer of a new drug. A new hope. Every night we prayed for our sweet Riley Rose as a family, and on Friday morning, this blessing of a girl with her sassy spirit and gorgeous smile, went home. Home to where she ached no longer. Home to where there is no more pain. Hearts around the world have mourned her loss, and our family joined in the sorrow.
Riley’s loss came when our home wasn’t feeling so bright and shiny. The week of her passing the Hubs lost a work friend to suicide. Family friends were facing medical hardships. One of our kiddos had been seriously struggling at home. We were not in a space to be thankful. I was not in a place of intentional joy. Of looking for the beauty in the small and mundane. Certainly not of saying yes.
But Friday I did. Because I could. Because others could not.
I am working to make this life more intentional. To see more the glory in the small. To choose joy. Choose kindness. Choose yes. Today I took the sweet flowers the tiny brought me and placed them in the cup on the sill, because it will make him happy knowing I did so. This evening we enjoyed the sun on our face and the tease of spring while we went for a walk, remembering Riley. It is a journey to choose this. To see the small and not just run it over, but to hold it close.
Will you join me on this journey? This attempt at honoring the life of Riley Rose through intentional living? I’d love to see how you choose yes.
If you would like to know more about what Riley’s family is doing to advocate and fight for families facing this trial, follow along on Kristen’s blog at Grace Changed Everything. This family: they will move mountains.
So today, choose intentional. Experience the magic of marshmallow unicorns. Put the tiny flowers in water. Take a walk in remembrance. And most importantly: Love your people. Love them fiercely.